Why is it that women withhold sex as some sort of punishment for their husbands, or husbands somehow hold back on their affections as punishment for their wives? Yes, let's talk about it. I remember the last time I told my husband he would be sleeping on the couch. He looked me dead in my eyes and said, "No I'm not, I'm sleeping in my bed right beside you". Well, I couldn't argue with that. Yes, you are allowed to get angry with your spouse, but when you begin to "punish" them for the the wrongs you think they have done, it leads to bitterness and resentment on both sides.
I know we think He does, but God never punishes us for not living up to His expectations. If He did that, we would be miserable. We fail everyday. At least, I know I do. No one taught you or your spouse how to be married. It's something that has to be learned. I'm not sure why couples don't get that. You take two strangers who were brought up differently most of the time, stick them together in the same house and try to fit heir lives together like a puzzle; add a few pieces here and there like kids, bills and career goals and you get a wonderful 1000 piece puzzle that is worthy of the great room wall. NOT! It's a mess....but it's manageable with the right tools. The main tool being, the word of God.
I said all that to say this, lets stop taking score, one upping, and competing for respect with one another. Come to terms with the fact that this is something that takes courage strength and PRACTICE! Was I still mad at my husband when he said he wasn't gonna sleep on the couch? Yes...but I was so stunned by his response and by the fact that I was so mad at him, but he still wanted to be near me, my anger quickly turned into longing. Longing to have more hours of happiness than anger. Live, Love, Laugh often and most importantly...HAVE SEX! (even when you're mad) lol. ;-0
EM
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