Cheating

Far too many of us have had to deal with this word in one way or another.  It plagued my life for a long time.  I don't think many of us understand the impact infidelity has on a person's heart and mind.  When a person cheats, they rob you of your will to even live sometimes.  It can be that devastating.  It makes you question your self worth, your ability to love, your ability to receive love and even your very existence.

I've been on both ends of the spectrum as the cheater and the cheated.  I know the toll infidelity can have on a marriage.  The situations vary for us all.  I'd say in some cases, infidelity is understood, but that doesn't make it right.  The minute the enemy allows you to think on it and justify it in your mind, you're a goner. 

I'm not happy about the fact that mu husband and I were unfaithful to one another at one point or another in our marriage.  I can say though that it helped me understand the love of God and how forgiveness really works.  When you're low enough in your life to justify cheating, you're very far from God.  Even still, He will welcome you with open arms and embrace you as if you never strayed.  Was it easy for my husband to do that when I strayed? HECK NO!  Was it easy for me? Double HECK NO!  But we realized before we could get back to each other, we had to get back to God.  If you can't accept His love and forgiveness, it's hard to accept others' or to give true forgiveness.

I share these things in hopes that it will help someone out there who may be struggling with this.  It's  hard and it hurts so so so bad when your spouse is unfaithful.  It will take a while, but this too shall pass.  Nothing is too hard for my God.  He can heal the worst of all broken hearts; even when pieces appear to be missing.

EM