I love you more than you love me!

Be honest with yourself. Do you think this about your spouse? I use to for a number of reasons...low self worth, no self confidence, inability to think someone could love me the way I love them...etc. I always thought I was being the best wife I could be, but my husband was not being the best husband he could. It didn't occur to me that no one taught him how to be a husband, just like no one taught me how to be a wife. So we both thought we were doing what was right. Boy were we wrong.

I always had this picture of what marriage should be like or what I wanted my marriage to be like. I never wanted us to be this couple that fell out of love and slept in separate rooms, only staying together because each other was all we knew. So I tried extra hard to be as sweet and loving as I knew how.  I knew how I wanted to be treated, but never thought about asking my husband how he wanted to be treated. Time went on and I grew tired of being the loving wife that I just knew I was; only to not be treated the way I thought I should be treated. I wanted props for being the best wife ever! lol

Well, I'm still the best wife ever, but I no longer think the way I love is the only way there is. My husband read this book about the 5 love languages one day. As he described it to me, I began to feel really bad. He had been showing that he loved me all along and I took it for granted. His love language is gifts. The man has always bought me everything I asked for and didn't ask for.  Don't get me wrong, that was not the only issue in our marriage, but once we overcame that, things did get better. It was an eye opening moment in my life.

I know he loves me. I believe he loves me. God doesn't always show us things the way we think He should, but we don't in turn think he doesn't love us. We choose to believe he loves us no matter what.  I choose to believe that my husband loves me and wants the best for me. He's not my enemy. (Thanks Pastor Edwin and Pastor Shun)  This has changed my marriage for the better. The Bible says joy and peace are found in believing.  Choose to believe the best about your spouse!