"I'm sorry". Sometimes those words mean nothing to the person they are aimed at. I have no doubt that any of you have felt this way at some point in your marriage. The truth is, it doesn't matter how it's said or where or when. When these words are uttered, there is a power shift. It's not up to that person to sound or look sorry, but it is up to you to forgive them for whatever they have done.
I know it might take a while to forgive some instances, but you truly do give that person power over you when you remain bitter and full of resentment. I'm not saying that you should be a stepping stool for anyone, but you should make a choice to forgive. How do I forgive when I am so hurt you ask? You ask God to help you. God gives us peace when we truly understand that the peace comes from Him. Realize that we can't do anything successfully without Him.
I can remember being at a point in my life when I wanted to get a divorce so badly. I just wanted to start over. I didn't feel God was releasing me from my marriage although, according to what the Bible said about divorce, I was good to go. I had so much resentment and unforgiveness built up in my heart. I couldn't stand him (my husband) to be quite honest. By this time we had both committed adultery and I don't think he really liked me either. We wound claim to want to make it work, but our actions said otherwise. We fought all the time; even when when we were "trying to work on our marriage". Unforgiveness and resentment had moved into our hearts and set up camp. I stood on my deck one night and cried out to God. I told him that I don't want to stay with my husband anymore and that if he wanted me to, He would have to make me love him again. At that point I totally surrendered to the will of God for my marriage.
Don't get me wrong, he still got on my nerves, but God allowed different people to speak into my life in order to start the healing process. I thank God for those people everyday. Eventually I forgave and so did he. We both worked through the resentment and gained total trust for one another in the process. I love that man now even more than I did when we first got married. Not only did God heal our marriage, he made it even better than it was before all the craziness.
Don't ever think you're the only one who deals with issues that seem unforgivable. Be open to complete surrender, accept the peace of God in your life and allow him to speak to you about every situation.
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