Lesson Learned

Ok. I know I probably shouldn't put myself out there like this, but here it goes.  I have a hard time dealing with it when my husband gets mad at me about something.  I hate for him to be upset; especially when it's with me.  I tend to try to fix the issue or make him feel better when something upsets him....except when it comes to him being upset with me.

I tend to come up with every reason I can to explain to him why he shouldn't be mad at me. Sometimes I"m basically saying, "You shouldn't be hurt, because I didn't mean to hurt you." Or I say something like "How could you be angry with me about something so small?"  It's crazy how I always invalidate the reason he's angry with me, but when I'm mad at him I think, he should just understand and beg for my forgiveness.  I try to force my logic on him, but how dare he try to explain to me why he's mad at me. lol  Crazy right?

Here's the lesson learned. Ladies, if you have a husband who will actually talk to you about the reason he's upset or any feelings he has at all, don't invalidate the feelings he has; even if you think they are very miniscule. It's especially hard to take it when you think it shouldn't be a big deal, but put yourself in his shoes and pretend you're the one who's upset and treat him the way you would want to be treated. Trust me, your marriage will be better and your arguments will reduce in quantity.  lol

I know this one was short, but I'm sleepy. I just had to get this one out while it was on my mind. :-)

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