Just Being Honest

My husband really, really get's on my nerves.  Most people in my profession wouldn't say that, but I want to be dreadfully honest with you.  Marriage is hard.  It does get easier, but it's so hard.  Even though I think I know my husband like the back of my hand, he still manages to hurt me.  I should see it coming, right?  Wrong! Sometimes I get complacent.  Sometimes I look to him for what I should only rely on God for.  As soon as I place my husband in God's place, I am quickly reminded that he is not God.

Anyway, he really gets on my nerves.  When we were going through our roughest patch, I would cry after a fight and then either go to the bathroom or the deck to pray.  Well, sometimes I prayed.  But, whenever I did, I would always get this overwhelming compassion for my husband; even when I knew it was all his fault. ;-) It got to the point where I wouldn't even pray because I knew God was gonna cause me to have compassion and be the first to apologize.  It wasn't until recently that I realized this was His way of humbling me.

We've learned how to get out of the cycle that I'm sure most of you are familiar with.  That cycle where the argument starts out about the trash, but turns into "you don't love me anymore".  Breaking that cycle was one of the hardest things we have ever done.  Even now, we can feel it trying to rear its ugly head again and we have to cut it off at its head. The photo below is our wedding.  After 12 years of marriage we had a wedding. It meant much more to us than if we had one in the beginning.  The hard work continues on.

I'm an introvert, but when it comes to helping others, I'd tell you my life story, if it will help you to get out of the destructive cycle of a bad marriage and to realize you deserve and can have a good one (with the one you're with).

 Email us at info@everydaymarriage.com if you have questions or just need some help.

EM